Tuesday, March 8, 2011



Don’t find love, let love find you. That’s why it’s called falling in love, because you don’t force yourself to fall, you just fall.
Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman, but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man.
It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and an day to love someone… but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
It breaks your heart to see the one you love is happy with someone else, but it’s more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.
If love is the answer , can you please repeat the question?
Faith makes all things possible. Love makes them easy. I believe that to truly Love, is the ultimate __expression of the will to live. A heart that truly loves is forever young.
Love makes life so confusing, but without love would you really want to live?
Do you love me because I am beautiful or am I beautiful because I am loved?
Love me now, love me never, but if you love me, love me forever.
Three things of life that are most valuable – Love, self-confidence & friends.
To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.
Love is like heaven, but it can hurt like hell.
Who do you turn to when the only person in the world that can stop you from crying, is exactly the one making you cry?
He taught me how to love, but not how to stop.
Of all forms of caution, caution in love is the most fatal.
We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
Many a young lady does not realize just how strong her love for a young man is until he fails to pass the approval test with her parents.
Is it better for a woman to marry a man who loves her than a man she loves.
Give her two red roses, each with a note. The first note says ‘For the woman I love’ and the second, ‘For my best friend.’
A good marriage is like a casserole, only those responsible for it really know what goes in it.
No one is perfect until you fall in love with them.
Love, true love, is that which can give the most without asking or demanding anything in return.
Where there is love, there is God also. ~ Leo Tolstoy ~
All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love. ~ Leo Tolstoy ~
Love cures people — both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it. ~ Dr. Karl Milnage ~
One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love. ~ Sophocles ~
It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations. ~ Khalil Gibran ~
When they asked me what I loved most about life, I smiled and said you. ~ Tina ~
Just because you know someone doesn’t mean you love them, and just because you don’t know people doesn’t mean you can’t love them. You can fall in love with a complete stranger in a heartbeat, if God planned that route for you. So open your heart to strangers more often. You never know when God will throw that pass at you. ~ Heather Grove ~
Love… What is love? Love is to love someone for who they are, who they were, and who they will be. ~ Chris Moore ~
Why do you say you love me, if you are only going to leave me? ~ Julia ~
;Love is like a river, always changing, but always finding you again somewhere down the road. ~ Kelly Elaine ~
Love is a language spoken by everyone , but understood only by a heart. ~ Shirley Rindani ~
People need love even when they don’t deserve it. ~ Nikki Ledbetter ~
For every word you say, another piece of my heart you take. ~ Tiara Johnson ~
Maybe God put a few bad people in your life, so when the right one came along you’d be thankful. ~ Andrea Kiefer ~
Love the heart that hurts you, But never hurt the heart that loves you.
Love me for a reason, let the reason be love.
It doesn’t take a reason to love someone, but it does to like someone. You don’t love someone because you want to, you love someone because you are destined too. It’s because you fall in Love with them, that you then try to find a reason, but you always come up with the answer, No reason!
Love is the beginning of all the joy which nature has store for us.
Never say goodbye when you still want to try. Never give up when you still feel you can take it. Never say you don’t love a person when you can’t let go. ~ Dons ~

Monday, February 14, 2011

What Singles can do on Valentine’s Day?

The celebration of Valentine's Day is not limited to lovers but includes any and everyone loved by us, be it our parents, siblings, children, friends, relatives or dear ones. Popular conception and lopsided media promotion has resulted in Valentine's Day being widely regarded only as a day for lovers. And yet, the occasion is not so. In its true sense, Valentine's Day celebrates love. The festival is a celebration of love. Think clear and think hard and you are sure to arrive at the conclusion that Saint Valentine stood up to defend love and not romantic partners. 

Go through these tips to know how you can indulge in Valentine's Day festivities in your own special way. 

Spend Quality time with family members

The fast paced world has left us with little time to be with our dear ones. Valentine's Day can be a wonderful opportunity for you to spend time with your family members. You can party, make a trip to the restaurant or go out for a movie together. 

Party with unhitched friends 

Going out with your single friends can also be a great option. Visit a friend's house or invite your pals to your own home. Catch a movie together, play party games or have a picnic. You will be surprised at what a gala time you can have even without any romantic interest. 

Good acts

This is also a good time to shower your love on those who really need it. Visit a hospital, an orphanage or old age home and meet with ailed or old people who have none to care for them. It is best to contact the hospital authorities beforehand and prearrange your visit to avoid any embarrassment later. Take along a bouquet of yellow roses along and gift each of them a blossom. This is sure to touch them and fill them with the warmth of love. You will feel as much pleasure in giving gifts to the less fortunate as they themselves will.

Different symbols associated with love and Valentine's Day

love heart
It was formerly believed that the heart was the seat of all human emotions. Accordingly, the gifting of a heart signified the selfless act of giving everything to someone you love. Though the ancients were not aware that the heart was responsible for pumping blood though the circulatory system, yet they knew one thing for sure that the heart was the center of all feelings. This ancient belief has lingered on through the ages.
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Ribbons, Laces and Frills

Ribbons and laces have been associated with love and romance since the days when a knight used to ride into a battle sporting the scarf or handkerchief presented to him by his ladylove. In the bygone times, laces were used making women's handkerchiefs. It was also usual for a lady to drop her handkerchief in the path of the man whose attention she wished to draw. 
Cupid the God of love
The love and attraction that a man and a lady feels for one another is traditionally ascribed to the mythological god,Cupid.In Latin, the word Cupid means "desire." Cupid is represented as a naked, chubby boy with wings and possessing a mischievous smile. He carries a bow with a quiver of arrows which he uses to transfix the hearts of youths and maidens. Click here to know more on Cupid

Roses - The eternal symbol of expressing love
The Rose

From time immemorial, beloveds have been compared to roses. If we juggle the letters of the word ROSE we get EROS, who is the God of Love. Rose has thus been the traditional choice of lovers around the world. The colour red is associated with strong emotions and below are listed sentiments expressed by different hues of rose:-

Lavender -- Enchantment and Uniqueness
Orange -- Fascination
Pink (Dark) -- Thankfulness, Friendship and Admiration
Red -- Love, Respect and Courage
Peach -- Modesty, Gratitude, Admiration and Sympathy
Pink (Pale) -- Grace, Joy and Happiness
Deep Red -- Beauty and Passion
White -- Innocence, Purity, Secrecy, Silence, Reverence, Humility and (according to some sources) True Love
Yellow -- Joy, Friendship, Jealousy, Hope and Freedom
Black -- Farewell
Red/White -- Unity or Engagement
Yellow/Orange -- Passionate Thoughts
Peach -- Modesty, Gratitude, Admiration and Sympathy
Pink (Pale) -- Grace, Joy and Happiness
Yellow/Red -- Congratulations
Rosebud -- Beauty, Youth and a Heart Innocent of Love
Red Rosebud -- Purity and Loveliness
White Rosebud -- Girlhood
One Dozen Red Roses -- "I Love You"
Single Red Rose in Full Bloom -- "I Love You"
Tea Roses -- "I'll Remember Always"

hands for love

The hands of a lady has been a favorite decoration for Valentine's Day for many years and is suppose to depict "femininity". To add to its beauty, the hand is often decorated with frilly cuff and a jeweled ring on the third finger. A lady's hands was a favorite decoration that depicted "femininity." Its beauty was enhanced by adding a frilly cuff and a jeweled ring on the third finger. Clasped hands are said to represent those of Queen Victoria and her consort, Prince Albert...the symbol of friendship between their respective countries of England and Germany.
doves for love
Doves and Love Birds

It was the popular belief that birds chose their mate for the year on February 14.Since doves and pigeons mate for life ,they symbolize loyalty, fidelity and love. Lovebirds, the small birds with colorful plumage, commonly found in Africa, are so called because they tend to get cozy with each other and can't survive without each other. pairs. Doves...common urban birds, shy and gentle by nature, with a distinctive "cooing" call...symbolize loyalty, fidelity and love .

A Puzzik is a quaint sort of homemade valentine which was a sort of puzzle that the receiver had to solve. Not only did she have to decipher the message but also to figure how to refold the paper once it was opened. The order of the verses was usually numbered, and the recipient had to twist the folds to determine what was being said.

Although it had many forms, a rebus usually was a romantic verse written in ink with certain words omitted and illustrated with a picture. Meant to be a riddle, they were not always easy to decipher.
Love knots
knots of love
They are made of ribbons and are traditional symbols of interminable and everlasting love.

Sunday, February 13, 2011

History Of Valentine's day..


Every year, the fourteenth day of the month of February has millions across the world presenting their loved ones with candy, Flowers, chocolates and other lovely gifts. In many countries, restaurants and eateries are seen to be filled with couples who are eager to celebrate their relationship and the joy of their togetherness through delicious cuisines. There hardly seems to be a young man or woman who is not keen to make the most of the day.
The reason behind all of this is a kindly cleric named Valentine who died more than a thousand years ago.It is not exactly known why the 14th of February is known as Valentine's Day or if the noble Valentine really had any relation to this day. 

The history of Valentine's Day is impossible to be obtained from any archive and the veil of centuries gone by has made the origin behind this day more difficult to trace. It is only some legends that are our source for the history of Valentine's Day.

The modern St. Valentine's Day celebrations are said to have been derived from both ancient Christian and Roman tradition. As per one legend, the holiday has originated from the ancient Roman festival of Lupercalis/Lupercalia, a fertility celebration that used to observed annually on February 15. But the rise of Christianity in Europe saw many pagan holidays being renamed for and dedicated to the early Christian martyrs. Lupercalia was no exception. In 496 AD, Pope Gelasius turned Lupercalia into a Christian feast day and set its observance a day earlier, on February 14. He proclaimed February 14 to be the feast day in honor of Saint Valentine, a Roman martyr who lived in the 3rd century. It is this St. Valentine whom the modern Valentine's Day honors. According to the Catholic Encyclopedia, there were at least three early Christian saints by the name of Valentine. While one was a priest in Rome, another was a bishop in Terni. Nothing is known about the third St. Valentine except that he met his end in Africa. Surprisingly, all three of them were said to have been martyred on 14th February. 

It is clear that Pope Gelasius intended to honor the first of these three aforementioned men. Most scholars believe that this St. Valentine was a priest who lived around 270 AD in Rome and attracted the disfavor of Roman emperor Claudius II who ruled during this time. 

The story of St. Valentine has two different versions - the Protestant and the Catholic one. Both versions agree upon Saint Valentine being a bishop who held secret marriage ceremonies of soldiers in opposition to Claudius II who had prohibited marriage for young men and was executed by the latter. During the lifetime of Valentine, the golden era of Roman empire had almost come to an end. Lack of quality administrators led to frequent civil strife. Education declined, taxation increased and trade witnessed a very bad time. The Roman empire faced crisis from all sides, from the Gauls, Slavs, Huns, Turks and Mongolians from Northern Europe and Asia. The empire had grown too large to be shielded from external aggression and internal chaos with existing forces. Naturally, more and more capable men were required to to be recruited as soldiers and officers to protect the nation from takeover. When Claudius became the emperor, he felt that married men were more emotionally attached to their families, and thus, will not make good soldiers. He believed that marriage made the men weak. So he issued an edict forbidding marriage to assure quality soldiers. 

The ban on marriage was a great shock for the Romans. But they dared not voice their protest against the mighty emperor. The kindly bishop Valentine also realized the injustice of the decree. He saw the trauma of young lovers who gave up all hopes of being united in marriage. He planned to counter the monarch's orders in secrecy. Whenever lovers thought of marrying, they went to Valentine who met them afterwards in a secret place, and joined them in the sacrament of matrimony. And thus he secretly performed many marriages for young lovers. But such things cannot remain hidden for long. It was only a matter of time before Claudius came to know of this "friend of lovers," and had him arrested. 

While awaiting his sentence in prison, Valentine was approached by his jailor, Asterius. It was said that Valentine had some saintly abilities and one of them granted him the power to heal people. Asterius had a blind daughter and knowing of the miraculous powers of Valentine he requested the latter to restore the sight of his blind daughter. The Catholic legend has it that Valentine did this through the vehicle of his strong faith, a phenomenon refuted by the Protestant version which agrees otherwise with the Catholic one. Whatever the fact, it appears that Valentine in some way did succeed to help Asterius' blind daughter. When Claudius II met Valentine, he was said to have been impressed by the dignity and conviction of the latter. However, Valentine refused to agree with the emperor regarding the ban on marriage. It is also said that the emperor tried to convert Valentine to the Roman gods but was unsuccesful in his efforts. Valentine refused to recognize Roman Gods and even attempted to convert the emperor, knowing the consequences fully. This angered Claudius II who gave the order of execution of Valentine.

Meanwhile, a deep friendship had been formed between Valentine and Asterius' daughter. It caused great grief to the young girl to hear of his friend's imminent death. It is said that just before his execution, Valentine asked for a pen and paper from his jailor, and signed a farewell message to her "From Your Valentine," a phrase that lived ever after. As per another legend, Valentine fell in love with the daughter of his jailer during his imprisonment. However, this legend is not given much importance by historians. The most plausible story surrounding St. Valentine is one not centered on Eros (passionate love) but on agape (Christian love): he was martyred for refusing to renounce his religion. Valentine is believed to have been executed on February 14, 270 AD.

Thus 14th February became a day for all lovers and Valentine became its Patron Saint. It began to be annually observed by young Romans who offered handwritten greetings of affection, known as Valentines, on this day to the women they admired. With the coming of Christianity, the day came to be known as St. Valentine's Day.

But it was only during the 14th century that St. Valentine's Day became definitively associated with love. UCLA medieval scholar Henry Ansgar Kelly, author of "Chaucer and the Cult of Saint Valentine", credits Chaucer as the one who first linked St. Valentine's Day with romance. In medieval France and England it was believed that birds mated on February 14. Hence, Chaucer used the image of birds as the symbol of lovers in poems dedicated to the day. In Chaucer's "The Parliament of Fowls," the royal engagement, the mating season of birds, and St. Valentine's Day are related:

"For this was on St. Valentine's Day, When every fowl cometh there to choose his mate."

By the Middle Ages, Valentine became as popular as to become one of the most popular saints in England and France. Despite attempts by the Christian church to sanctify the holiday, the association of Valentine’s Day with romance and courtship continued through the Middle Ages. The holiday evolved over the centuries. By the 18th century, gift-giving and exchanging hand-made cards on Valentine's Day had become common in England. Hand-made valentine cards made of lace, ribbons, and featuring cupids and hearts began to be created on this day and handed over to the man or woman one loved. Valentine's day greeting cardThis tradition eventually spread to the American colonies. It was not until the 1840s that Valentine's Day greeting cards began to be commercially produced in the U.S. The first American Valentine's Day greeting cards were created by Esther A. Howlanda Mount Holyoke, a graduate and native of Worcester. Mass. Howland, known as the Mother of the Valentine, made elaborate creations with real lace, ribbons and colorful pictures known as "scrap". It was when Howland began Valentine's cards in a large scale that the tradition really caught on in the United States.

Today, Valentine's Day is one of the major holidays in the U.S. and has become a booming commercial success. According to the Greeting Card Association, 25% of all cards sent each year are "valentine"s. The "valentines", as Valentine's Day cards are better known as, are often designed with hearts to symbolize love. The Valentine's Day card spread with Christianity, and is now celebrated all over the world. One of the earliest valentines was sent in 1415 AD by Charles, Duke of Orleans, to his wife during his imprisonment in the Tower of London. The card is now preserved in the British Museum. 

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Nur Alia Farisha Nama mu seindaH Hatimu

       Ketika aku masih bersedih dan terluka, hidup seperti tidak bermakna lagi buatku. Namun ketika itu juga teman-teman memberi semangat dan membuat aku tersenyum, walaupun senyuman itu tidak semanis selalu tapi sedikit senyuman itu memberi aku kekuatan yang tersisa.
        Ketika itu juga seorang teman yang sangat mengambil berat dan sentiasa berusaha buat aku tersenyum menceritakan kisah seorang gadis dan cerita itu benar-benar membuatkan aku sedar bahawa ada insan lain lagi yang benar-benar tersiksa dan menderita daripadaku.
        Nur Alia Farisha nama mu seindah hatimu, seorang yang tabah,manja dan mudah tersenyum apabila dipujuk. Dia juga pernah putus cinta seperti insan lain tapi dia tabah dan orang yang sering membuatkan  Nur Alia Farisha senyum adalah temanku yang juga selalu menyuruhku senyum. Mungkin dia layak di beri nama Mr.SmiLe. Mereka selalu meluahkan rasa hati masing-masing. Mr.Smile begitu menyayangi gadis yang tabah itu namun hubungan mereka tidak lebih daripada seorang adik dan abang.
          Tiba-tiba satu hari sewaktu Mr.Smile masih orentasi di USM dia mendapat khabar bahawa gadis yang tabah itu sudah tiada dan tidak mungkin akan kembali lagi, tiada lagi senyuman manja daripadanya semuanya telah berakhir. Tiada kata lain yang mampu diungkapkan setelah kehilangan seorang yang begitu dikasihi.
           Gadis itu sudah lama sakit dan menderita dengan penyakit kenser otak yang dialaminya. Dia tidak pernah merungut, tidak pernah menyalahkan takdir dengan keadaannya, dia masih mampu memberi senyuman manis kepada orang lain walaupun menderita. Semua teman-temannya tidak mengatahui dia menderita sakit termasuk lah Mr.Smile yang dia anggp sebagai abang.
            Tabah dan kuatnya dia, dalam senyuman tersimpan 1000 satu kedukaan dihatinya, dia berusaha melawan penyakit yang dihadapinya tanpa penyesalan. Senyuman mampu menjankau segala-galanya.
walaupun perit dan menderita dia tidak perna peduli, dia tidak pernah menyusahkan orang lain dengan penyakit yang dialaminya tetapi dia mengembirakan orang lain dengan senyuman manisnya.
             Nur Alia Farisha pasti orang tuamu bangga punya anak yang kuat seperti kamu, teman-temanmu pasti merindui gadis yang bernama Nur Alia Farisha kerana kamu begitu luarbiasa dan sentiasa menyenangkan  
mereka dengan gelagat manjamu. Senyuman manismu pasti dirindui setiap orang, kerana kamu begitu indah.
semoga rohmu damai di sana amin...

FiNaLLY aLL aBoUt uS Is OvER (cerpen)

       semUAnya seperti mimpi..terlalu sukar untuk diterima, menangis air mata darah sekalipun cinta ini tidak mungkin pulih. Sukar untuk melepaskan kepemergiannya, segalanya seperti ilusi semata-mata, mimpi indah yang berakhir dengan mimpi ngeri. Penat merayu meratap dan menangis tetapi semuanya telah berakhir.
         Semua tentangnya akan ku simpan dalam hati buat selamanya, kamu begitu istemewa bagi aku dan tidak pernah terdetik untuk meninggalkan kamu. Aku perlu waktu yang panjang untuk melupakan mimpi negeri ini, entah mampu atau tidak terletak pada pilihan ku. Apa pun yang terjadi selepas ini aku kena tabah dan terus tabah. aku fikir Cinta itu buta kerana aku tidak bisa melihat insan lain selain kamu. Cinta itu buta kecuali ketika kamu menuntunku dalam gelapnya. Cinta itu buta, bisu, tuli, dan lumpuh sehingga aku membiarkannya membawa separuh jiwaku pergi. Namun aku tersedar dan aku memahami bahawa Cinta itu tidak buta tetapi memahami.
          Melihat kamu pergi membuat hati ku sakit, kerana aku mencintai kamu. Tapi aku melepaskan kamu pergi kerana aku cintai kamu. Aku sememangnya degil dan selalu tidak mendengar kata, aku minta maaf walaupun kata maaf ini sudah terlambat namun aku tetap ingin mengatakannya. Pesan kamu akan selalu ku ingat sampai nanti walaupun waktu itu sudah berubah.
          Aku masih ingat kali terakhir bersama kamu, aku mengenggam tanganmu dengan air mata yang tak henti-henti mengalir dengan perasaan yang sebak dan sakit. Aku tidak mampu menatap wajah kamu kerana itu sangat sulit untukku lakukan. Kamu mengingatkan aku setiap pesan-pesan mu dengan ku, dan aku begitu ingat sekali semua pesan itu, satu persatu ku sebut semua pesan itu dalam sendu tangisan. Aku tahu kamu juga menangis ketika itu tetapi aku tidak berani melihat wajah kamu, kerana melihat kamu bersedih membuatkan aku terluka dan menyedarkan aku bahawa aku sudah gagal membahagiakan kamu.
          Selepas ini entah boleh lagi atau tidak untukku tersenyum seperti selalu, kehilanganmu membuatkan aku seperti tidak bernyawa lagi.Tapi ini kenyataan yang perlu diterima walaupun sulitku jalani, Tuhan pasti mengerti semuanya dan dia tidak akan membiarkan aku sendirian.BiarLah semuanya jadi pengajaran.
kiTa masih saling cinta, walaupun sudah berakhir namun sayan itu tidak akan pernah berubah.Akan ku pastikan ku memelukmu di syurga..

                                                                                                                        To Be Continued